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Post by xenocide on Dec 3, 2010 3:10:20 GMT -5
i trust all of your opinions, more so than most of my other friends. i have a female friend that i have been attracted to for, well, im twenty and ive liked her since 6th grade. she is not even remotely a geek. she came to me the other day and asked me if i liked her, and me being an idiot said yes and told her the truth. we talked for a few hours, and she said that if she wasnt in a relationship she would really like to go out with me.
her and her boyfriend broke up yesterday.
she is happy that i have strong ties with my friends thru the games i play, and furthermore is willing to TRY to learn them.
what do i do? what move do i make? do i sit back and wait? im so friggin confused at this point.
HELP??!!!??
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Post by Drozgul on Dec 3, 2010 8:39:21 GMT -5
Okay, this is SO simple, she is sending you ALL the signals my friend, you are a lucky SOB! You're nervous about it, that's good. Follow that nerve a little. So that being said, slowly immerse her into what we do as gamers. Feel free to shine a little of your hard earned knowledge on her, but just a little at a time. Relate to what she already knows first though for both your comforts' sake. Like, its usually easy to talk D&D and Magic AFTER finding out she's secretly a Legolas nerd and has watched (or better yet read) LOTR 20 times. Rule one) EVERYTHING in moderation! Use the 60/40 (at minimum) method. This means, try to go for AT LEAST 60% of what she's into 60% of the time, and follow no more than 40% of your own interests with her 40% of the time, until/unless SHE asks for more. Its always good to ask her what she thinks about something, but its even better to ask her what her favorite parts of of something, because in gaming (particularly role-playing) an interest in, say elves, can open the envelope for sub-races, and talk about their ecology and so on. Not to a scary depth, but as much as she asks for. Just watch her for cues, trust me, paying attention to her will be the easiest thing you've even done, ask her when you don't understand what she means, and let her help you understand her body language, and don't be afraid to even pick on her a bit when she VERY politely listens to you explain what the hell a Planeswalker is. You've known her for about 10 years, you can have fun. You don't wanna do extreme proportions for the above math, simply because one of you will be overwhelmed and chance losing interest. But in your case, SHE already shows interest, so you're already winning. Rule two) Take at least one more step of better care of yourself than usual. This is simple, and yet overlooked easily because one's nerves overcome them. Use a comb, replace your deodorant, lay off of bad breath foods, or remember a mouthwash/gum afterward. Basically, just be self aware, just not to the point your shaking in your boots about it. Remember, she already likes you, so you already have points on the board. And finally Rule three) Tell me to delete this thread before you introduce her to the forum! That's pretty simple, and she may even think its cute or whatever, but not only can an announcement of her arrival to the BRB meetings or forums prepare us to greet her, but we can remove things from here (like this reply) that might take her off balance. Addendum) Good Luck! You are officially achieving something that every man, gamer or not dreams of; having a woman you are genuinely interested in, (with no pressure or coaxing) be willing to delve into the things that you already love. Cell is always on, and my mailbox always open. But your own instinct should take good care of you.
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Post by xenocide on Dec 3, 2010 11:42:23 GMT -5
haha, thanks bossman. she has read lotr, and likes star wars even! ive known her forever it seems. imma do my best =) (and ill remember that deleting this post thing, thatll be usefull!)
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Post by labael on Dec 4, 2010 15:40:22 GMT -5
Droz, has said it best. Moderation is key. Another thing I might suggest is an ease into roleplay itself. The numbers of D&D and other such games can be overwhelming to the neonate, especially while making the character. Things like Whose Line or Cranium or even Charades can ease them in.
Happy hunting my friend
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Post by xenocide on Dec 4, 2010 19:05:56 GMT -5
alright. guess i better not screw this up eh? lol
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